Ten Essential Qualities She’s Looking For You To Have If You Want To Be Her Main Guy
Every woman has a laundry list of attributes they desire in a partner. Some, whether it’s height, skin tone, a roguish, Humphrey Bogart-esque face — or just the way a man’s body fits into a suit — are skin-deep. Try as we might to score with the women we adore, it’s often impossible to physically change our appearance to fit all of her desires.
There are also qualities a woman looks for in a man that have nothing to do with the size of his biceps or the way he towers over other men in a crowd. These attributes are enticing because they are more about what’s going on inside a man.
Here are 10 desirable qualities that women look for in a man — from the way he walks into a room to never breaking a promise — and the reasons why every man should aspire to display these attributes to the opposite sex.
10. Be Passionate
Ask any woman fresh out of a relationship for the key reason the partnership fell apart and one word you’ll hear a lot is “passion.”
“Many women complain that men today don’t take initiative inside or outside of the bedroom,” explained Andrea Syrtash, relationship expert and author of It’s Okay to Sleep With Him on the First Date: And Every Other Rule of Dating Debunked. “It’s very sexy when a man plans a date and asserts himself sexually. One woman I recently interviewed said she knew she wanted to be with her boyfriend when he picked her up (literally) and brought her into his bedroom.”
Be passionate about her completely — show interest in her not only sexually but emotionally as well. Take an interest in the things that make her tick — from her work to her volunteer work, her hobbies and life goals.
9. Be Confident
Confidence is crucial. A man secure in his own skin makes a woman feel secure. This involves not only the way you treat others, but the way you carry yourself in public and in private. Hold your head up high in a tall, straight posture and walk like you own the room — even on the days you feel like the exact opposite is true. A confident man can handle unfamiliar situations with ease and assurance, and won’t be rattled if he commits a minor gaffe, even if everyone’s watching.
8. Be Faithful
In a world in which cheating on a girlfriend or spouse has become much easier — thanks to websites dedicated to adultery and phone apps specifically designed to hide indiscretions — staying faithful can feel like a 24-hour job even to the most devoted individual.
Women enter a relationship with the intent of being in it for the long haul. They want to know their partner is making the same commitment. Prove from the start that you’re faithfully committed — watch that wandering eye in public, and don’t go exchanging flirtatious texts with old flames — and she’ll do the same.
7. Be Dependable
Men usually don’t have an issue making commitments to a woman — the issue is usually with the follow-through. Women want a man who’ll keep a promise and stay true to his word, even if it’s something as simple as dinner plans or a weekend getaway. Keep true to your word with her — don’t simply ditch her the first time one of your buddies wants to make plans on a night you’d made plans with her first, and if something you truly can’t avoid comes up, let her know as soon as possible and work with her to re-schedule.
6. Be Mysterious
It’s true that women love excitement, especially in a new relationship, and there is no better way to keep that excitement alive than being slightly secretive. There’s a huge difference between being slightly unpredictable and being aloof. Near the beginning of a relationship, it doesn’t hurt to play your cards ever so slightly closer to your chest than you normally would.
If she texts, and you don’t immediately respond, you neatly avoid the chance that you’ll come across as desperate. Let her sweat it out for a few minutes — but never let the text go for hours without a response. That’s the difference between keeping her interested and turning her off by being a jerk.
In the later stages of a relationship, keep it mysterious with things like weekend plans or surprise gifts for special occasions.
5. Be Generous
There are two different types of generosity and both are incredibly desirable to the opposite sex. The first is being generous with possessions — donating gifts or money to charities or those less fortunate. The second is being generous with time — spending time with people in need of a sympathetic ear or a shoulder to cry on, or with the special woman in your life.
4. Be Kind
Kindness is an important and desirable quality which many men sadly lack a little. This is based on the widely held belief that to make it in this world, a man needs a tough exterior and killer instinct. This may be true in the boardroom, but not in the bedroom. “Don’t believe the hype that nice guys finish last,” laughs Syrtash. “Kindness is consistently ranked as one of the best and sexiest qualities a man can have. A man who treats you right, is nice to other people and gives back to his community is a catch.”
3. Be A Good Dad (Eventually)
Being a good father (or exhibiting the potential that you will be sometime in the future) is incredibly desirable to a woman — especially those who enjoy a close relationship with their own father. Being a good dad involves qualities like patience and compassion — qualities women want in a partner for their own needs and the eventual needs of their kids. Think about how you treat kids and cute animals. Are you always shooing your younger nephew away when he wants to play? Do you shun your friends’ pets when you go over? Maybe it’s time to start playing nice with others.
2. Be A Teacher
One desirable quality women often notice involves a man’s passion for side projects — your hobbies and interests that fill the time between job and sleep. She mostly likely finds one (or many) of these things that you do fascinating and that makes you incredibly desirable. Women want a man who’ll give them a peek into another world. Teach them something they don’t know about a subject you’re passionate about. Of course, there’s a fine line between that and boring them to tears with inane details and jargon, but if she shows some interest, indulge it. There is nothing more desirable than a man opening up and sharing his passions with a woman.
1. Be Humorous
Women want a man who can make them laugh, or at least show them the humor in even the most uncomfortable situation. The ability to joke at the stresses of life, and being in a relationship, is a must. Unfortunately, not every man is born with the ability to make people laugh, but just being able to laugh is often enough to diffuse a situation. Show her you can laugh at yourself and life’s little mishaps and she’ll find it irresistible.
While women find all of these traits desirable, the most important part to remember is to never stop exhibiting these attributes over time. Always be confident, keep her laughing, be passionate towards her and generous towards others and you’ll remain desirable to her for years to come.
By Chris Illuminati [AskMen]